The experience of change, good or bad, has repercussions. One change can set you on a new course and have so much meaning in your life. It can affect you in a myriad of ways - some of which you may not have thought of when the change occurred.

It’s the domino effect of a given change that can throw you off course. You start a new relationship but how is it affecting your other relationships? Are you ignoring other people or responsibilities? You get promoted at work but what about the person you replaced and whose shoes you have to fill? Will you have to work longer hours? What impact will this have on your co-workers? How will it affect your life outside of work? You were unexpectedly laid off and how will you pay the mortgage on the new house you just bought? How will this affect your partner or your family?

One thing to acknowledge is that you play a role in every change no matter whether you choose to make a change or a change is thrust upon you. Your reaction to change will vary and is dependent on many factors; the key ones being your previous experience with change, your current circumstances, and your willingness to embrace the unknown…

The Essence of Community

Shared Understanding: they provide a safe space where you can discuss your experiences, your successes, and your fears. You also feel a sense of belonging and validation.

Collective Wisdom: there’s nothing better than sharing your experience and insights and hearing from others on how they are maneuvering change and transition. I always learn something from my communities and appreciate and value the various perspectives.

Emotional Support: we need empathy, compassion, and encouragement during times of change. Your communities can offer that in spades. The mere fact that you are not alone in whatever you are going through can significantly bolster your resilience.

The Power of Connection

Accountability and Motivation: your communities can hold you accountable for your intentions and commitments which will encourage you to stay motivated…

What happens when you have an elderly parent who needs 24/7 care? How do you help them adjust to a life full of change and transition?

I recently moved back to my hometown after living away for four decades. I did this for many reasons; participating in the care of my 98-year-old (now 99) father was a significant factor, along with a desire to be closer to family and to live in a smaller, more affordable city.

Not only did I move home but I moved in with my father. Living with my elderly father after living on my own for most of my life required some adjustment to say the least. And of course, this was a significant change for my father as well…

What I want to highlight here are the changes that my father is experiencing and their effect…

All of a sudden, you need more care. You need to depend on your family more than ever. You were always the one who took care of them and now your independence is almost completely gone. It’s challenging, demoralizing, and frustrating. The overriding thought is that you no longer feel useful…

So how do you help your parent maintain some independence and continue to feel useful?

Why is being comfortable with being uncomfortable important? What benefits does it offer?

It expands your comfort zone. What once was uncomfortable eventually becomes familiar setting you up to handle challenges with less fear.

It enhances your ability to adapt to new situations. Nothing goes exactly to plan. Adaptability is essential to managing any major life change.

It finetunes your decision-making and problem-solving skills. Challenges such as major life changes can involve making some tough decisions. Developing the ability to make decisions and solve problems in challenging situations can build these skills…

Our brains are hard-wired to prioritize safety and familiarity. Although this programming can be beneficial, it often holds us back from embracing change and taking into consideration the unknown. The good news is, that just as our brains learned to proceed with caution and protect us, we have the power to reprogram them for empowerment and exploration.

Understanding the Safety Programming:

Our brains are geared for survival. They instinctively seek patterns, familiar environments, and known outcomes to minimize perceived threats. In today's dynamic and sometimes overwhelming world, this instinct can manifest as resistance to change, creating barriers to personal growth and fulfillment…

The last two months of the year can be challenging. You already have a lot on your plate with all the NEW in your life - the new job, new home, new environment, new relationship status, new family member, new financial status, or new career - you get the picture. Then the holidays appear and that change takes on a whole new significance. The season can either be joyous or a big old mess or something in between.

Let’s face it. The holiday season comes with its own set of expectations. There is money to be spent, friends and relatives to see, events to attend, and food and drinks to consume. All of these things can be laden with stress and anxiety for starters, and then you throw in something new, and those emotions increase tenfold. You just moved and are feeling lonely, you just got divorced and miss the family you had, you recently lost a loved one and are grieving, you started a new job or career and are feeling the crunch of performing, or you just got laid off and are wondering how you can afford to buy gifts.

The holiday season is going to show up like clockwork every year whether we like it or not so here are a few recommendations to equip you with the goods to survive it all…