I venture to say that most of us have beliefs about ourselves that are not true and limit us. “Not being worthy” is up there on the list whether it be worthy of love, success, happiness, or friendship. Whatever your truth is, it can manifest itself in all sorts of ways. You get in your own way. You don’t negotiate the salary you deserve. You don’t ask for a promotion. You don’t tell your friend or partner that you don’t like how they are treating you or that you just need to talk and you want them to just listen.

Taking stock of your negative belief(s) about yourself, known as limiting beliefs, involves self-reflection and introspection. A great first step is to take an inventory of your beliefs about yourself…

Do you operate from a scarcity mindset? Do you find yourself looking at what everyone else has - things, love, time, adventure, money, a big career, etc? If you are asking yourself “Why don't I have these things?”, you have a case of the scarcity mindset. Maybe you are not where you want to be career-wise. Maybe you’ve been saving for a big ticket item and some unexpected expenses came up that squashed that idea…

I wanted to turn the scarcity mindset around especially since it created this feeling of not enough whether it be success, happiness, recognition, or whatever I am seeking on any given day…

What got me out of the “not enough” spiral? I started an abundance journal sometimes called a gratitude journal…

Do you have an internal voice that is not very kind? Do you get mad at yourself for the simplest things like dropping something or forgetting to buy the milk?

What happens when less than kind remarks or behavior is directed toward you? Do you question your worth, get angry, or wonder what you did wrong? What happens when you make a snide remark? Do you wish you could take it back?

Now think about the time when someone showed you kindness…

Coaching requires intentional listening. What that means is that you listen without bringing YOU and your experiences into the mix. You listen for what is being said. You note the non-verbal cues. You read between the lines - what is NOT being said.

As a coach, you develop a keen awareness as to when you are not fully present, and you can refocus your attention in the moment. Learning to really listen takes constant work. And as you get better…

Are you an introvert? Introverts need plenty of alone time especially to recharge, listen more than talk, prefer one to one connections, are independent and are often deep thinkers that take the time to reflect on their experiences and emotions.

So what does being an introvert have to do with how you deal with change? Well, quite a lot, actually.

An introvert responds to change in a number of ways:

Resistance - they tend to relish stability and may initially resist change. They really need time to warm up to the idea.

Processing - they need time to think through the implications of a particular change…

Stability is defined as the quality, state, or degree of being stable. I imagine a lot of us feel the need for stability at the present moment. Even if, as a rule, you do not crave stability, you may want it now. I certainly do, mostly because the greater world feels exceptionally unstable. I go between an obsessive need to know what’s going on in the world, trying to figure out if there is anything I can do to help, and reading everything I can find about the topic, to a forced media blackout when my emotional wellbeing is at risk.

If you crave stability, for whatever reason, here are a few tips.