Lessons on Self-Judgment and staying grounded in unsettling times - A video message
I am going to tackle a couple of topics: fear of judgment and the importance of feeling grounded during unsettling times.
I’ll start by sharing a personal story about my experience with judgment. I have wanted to add video content to my blog for a very long time and have been 𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗿𝗶𝗳𝗶𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗼 𝗿𝗲𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗱 𝗮𝗻𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴. The ironic part is that I was a producer for 20+ years, so I know how to do this. It didn't matter. Knowing I am an expert in this field just made me more nervous.
I finally got up the nerve to record my first video 𝙖𝙣𝙙 𝙩𝙝𝙚𝙣 𝙩𝙝𝙚 𝙟𝙪𝙙𝙜𝙢𝙚𝙣𝙩 𝙗𝙚𝙜𝙖𝙣. I don't look very good. The audio and lighting could be better. The picture quality is not great. I don't like how I positioned myself in front of the camera. I don't like the background. Is the content compelling enough?
Here's the thing. 𝗪𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝘀𝘁 𝗰𝗿𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗰𝘀. 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘄𝗼𝗿𝗸 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗻𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿 𝗯𝗲 𝗴𝗼𝗼𝗱 𝗲𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 𝗶𝗻 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝘆𝗲𝘀. Am I right?
I sought advice from a coach friend about my fears. She gave me encouragement, talked me out of my fears and self-judgment, and convinced me that I have something to say worth hearing.
The good news is that I got beyond the judgment. So n𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝘁𝗶𝗺𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗵𝗲𝘀𝗶𝘁𝗮𝗻𝘁 𝘁𝗼 𝗱𝗼 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘀𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗲 𝗮𝗯𝗼𝘂𝘁, 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁. 𝗗𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗳 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗷𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝗱𝗼 𝗶𝘁 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳. Oh and find someone to support you when you are crumbling from self-doubt.
Next, I want to talk about finding ways to feel grounded when the world around you is unsettling. This happens to be the topic of my video. Don’t worry, I will share the link below.
I am feeling unmoored, unsettled, and nervous and have been feeling this way for a while. This is in reaction to what is happening in the world right now. I can’t imagine I am the only one feeling this way. I took this opportunity to talk directly to you about how I stay grounded and hope you adopt some of these practices. They work.
Here is a link to my video, “Managing anxiety during uncertain times”. I would love to hear from you on how you are staying grounded.
Kathy Batista, my coach friend mentioned above, has great advice on mindfulness and self-care. To learn more go to her website.