Are You Making Yourself Small to Get Along?
Are you wondering if your relationship with your partner is faltering? What about your friends or family? Are you grappling with what to do about it?
Maybe you don’t connect the way you used to. Maybe you feel like they can’t hear you anymore or perhaps you’ve realized that you’re simply two very different people with less and less in common.
Or maybe you’ve made yourself so small in the relationship in order to get along that you’ve begun to feel almost invisible.
This can happen for so many reasons.
Understanding the domino effects of change
The experience of change, good or bad, has repercussions. One change can set you on a new course and have so much meaning in your life. It can affect you in a myriad of ways - some of which you may not have thought of when the change occurred.
It’s the domino effect of a given change that can throw you off course. You start a new relationship but how is it affecting your other relationships? Are you ignoring other people or responsibilities? You get promoted at work but what about the person you replaced and whose shoes you have to fill? Will you have to work longer hours? What impact will this have on your co-workers? How will it affect your life outside of work? You were unexpectedly laid off and how will you pay the mortgage on the new house you just bought? How will this affect your partner or your family?
One thing to acknowledge is that you play a role in every change no matter whether you choose to make a change or a change is thrust upon you. Your reaction to change will vary and is dependent on many factors; the key ones being your previous experience with change, your current circumstances, and your willingness to embrace the unknown…