just start! Give yourself a break and do it anyway.
It’s ironic that I am writing this today. Here’s the scenario. I planned to write this last week along with other posts so I would be ready for September and did not get to it. Then I was going to write it over the weekend. Well that did not happen. Then I was going to work on it on the holiday but it’s a holiday so I found other things to do.
I put it off and put it off…so I started to think about why I was putting it off. Honestly it could be any numbers of reasons. I wasn’t inspired. I had other things to do. Blah blah blah! To be honest with you, I am struggling a bit. I can’t seem to get out of my own way. And I realized that I am having trouble getting started again after my move. It hasn’t quite sunk in that I am living in a new place and I’m feeling a bit unsettled. It’s the perfect excuse not to get started or in my case, keep going.
Is it normal to struggle after a big transition? Heck yes! Is it normal to struggle in general no matter your circumstances? A big yes!
My last few posts have been about managing a big transition so it is all too apparent that it is taking up a lot of brain space. I was even reluctant to mention my move again. Frankly, I am sick of talking about it. I just want to move on. Get a rhythm going. Start writing posts more often. Work on a strategy to engage with all of you. Work with more clients.
Does this sound familiar - the feeling that you can’t get it together and make it work?
Here’s the thing…it just takes time to adjust and talking about it helps. And yes, you’ve heard me say this before but boy am I proof of how it works.
So let’s recap. First, acknowledge that you are having a tough time to yourself and to anyone who will listen. I’ve really only shared my frustration with a couple of people. So now I am following my own advice and sharing it with you. Second, think about the why. The truth is that it could just be that you didn’t feel like it. If you can’t seem to get started for a longer period of time than usual, there’s probably more to it. Did you just make a big transition and are expecting too much from yourself? Do you already have a lot on your plate and just need to regroup, rearrange, prioritize, and/or take stuff off your plate in order to move forward? Do you need to block off time to figure it out instead of fitting it in here and there. Third, give yourself a break (aka: don’t beat yourself up). We all question ourselves. Am I doing this right? Can it be better? Why am I doing this - I’m not very good at it! Questioning why you are doing things or why you are feeling a certain way is healthy. Do it with a little more curiosity and a little less judgement.
And last, just start. Forge ahead and do it anyway. Skip the “it has to be perfect” part. It won’t be (according to your inner critic!).